I'm shocked and then again, I'm not...not another young girl...

Have something pretty heavy to talk about. My hubby's coworker who was a young, smart and happy 22 girl was murdered by her possessive psycho maniac Marine boyfriend Saturday night. He then took his own life. My hubby on Friday was concerned about her because she is always reliable and on time...she was a no call no show. A couple of his manager friends shared the same worry for her and they tried to alert the police, sadly were told that they need the family to file a missing person report. The management team got on Google and knew where her parents lived and tried to find them that way. They were very concerned for her safety. The number that they got for the family turned up cold... then it was common knowledge at work that she was now "missing". Yesterday the police found them dead, shot, murder-suicide. He was 24. Sadness couldn't sum up the feeling for the lose of this young woman. Everyone's asking...did I do enough? Did I know that she was in a seriously abusive relationship...what part of the guilt is mine that I should own... Here is the reality of such heinousness. The sin of taking an innocent life...acting selfish, possessive, narcissistic and egomaniacal....for your own power and control...that is evil...It is negative. This is what an earth looks like, a society of women being killed by their loved ones, a place where what should never happens comes as another blurb on the tv. The pain caused to her branches out to all that she touch or knew when she was alive and the new ties of those who her story will touch. It does not have to weigh heavy on our heart. What's done is done the past is unchangeable. We are not designed to walk around playing the would've, should've game. We are designed to honor her life.  and in honoring her life...take what is incredibly unfair in this world and make something positive come from it. Hopefully all who have been touched by her story, will now look at relationships differently. Pay attention at the signs where domestic violence occurs. Loss of friends, She can't do anything anymore, controlled in thought, speech, extreme anxiety, extreme worry. Has she tried to leave before?, how many times? and how successful is she at separating herself from her. The problem with these types of relationships, and I know this because I was blessed with getting out of one...is that the controller, the punisher, the tormentor who is supposedly the one who loves her...he has detached her from her normal support group, her family, her friends and coworkers so they can't influence her to not listen and do as he tells her. To get out of something like this... she needs someone to be there for her unwaivering and has to deal with having a friendship that is draining and usually pushed away from time to time... But someone has to be there for her when she gets that ounce of thought and energy to get out. My best friend was there for me and was instrumental for me being alive today...happy mom of three, wife to one =). We have to be ready to jump on the opportunity to offer protection, shelter, food, and money. This person is coming out of a post-shock syndrome. It has been a battlefield to stay alive each day... everyday compromising more of herself...to live another day. It is my wish someday that women all around the world would be treated with respect, love and honor...and not just taking in a blink of an eye because someone was sad. RIP D...